On Love - Erich Fromm
There is hardly any word which is more ambiguous and confusing than the word love. It is used to denote every feeling short of hate and disgust. It comprises everything from the love of ice-cream to the love of a symphony the most intense feeling of closeness. People feel they love if they have ‘fallen for’ somebody. They call their dependence love and their possessiveness too.
The believe in fact that the difficultly lies in finding the right object, and that their failure to find happiness in love is due to their bad luck in not finding the right partner. But contrary to all this confused and wishful thinking, love is a very specific feeling; and whilst every human being has the capacity for love, its realisation is one of the most difficult achievements.